It’s easier to break the cycle once you understand the pattern.
Recently I have grown increasingly aware of the nuances of my dharma (Sanskrit for my inherent nature). Growing more aware of who I am has helped me see the habits I’ve acquired that aren’t aligned with my truth.
I tend to allow the people closest to me change me to suit their comfort. I’m very adaptable. Making it work is one of my skills. And fortunately, for the most part, admirable people with good taste surround me. But that doesn’t mean that it’s okay for me to allow them to pressure me into doing things their way. I’m a unicorn🦄 What works for them isn’t working for me.
Being adaptable has served me well, and it will continue to serve me well a lot of the time. But adding in some stronger boundaries and getting clearer about my own needs frees me to be myself.
Drawing these new boundaries has lead to feelings of uncertainty and pain. But those sentiments are temporary growing pains. Even when it hurts, it feels right. The pain passes and we get to live with greater happiness and peace.
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