Not The Usual Experience
It is quite common for individuals to mistake their own experience for the usual experience. 10-15 years ago, when yoga teachers did this I thought I had some real issues. For example: “you are so busy rushing around that you don’t appreciate the life that is in front of you.” … That’s a big assumption and not a very nice thing to say.
When I was 17 I put so much trust in my teachers so when I heard these things I got worried. I thought I was ungrateful or if I was in a rush I thought I was doing something wrong. But as I got older I realized that these teachers were projecting their issues onto me.
To this day I get protective of students in class when teachers use the word “you” instead of “I.” When I teach, or discuss things outside the classroom I try my best to say: “when I… I tend to…” Or use parses like “you may notice the tendency to...” or “some of us may experience…” But I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to tell another how it is in absolute terms. As my friend @nicoleandresdaniels would say: “You don’t know my life.”