Quiet Time... So Necessary
Another big shift I found between my 20s and 30s is that I require more quiet time. I used to be worried about disappointing friends and family for saying no to social engagements. I can’t worry about disappointing people anymore because it comes at the expense of my wellbeing. In order for me to be the person that my friends and family love I have to be less available. Because I find flakiness very unattractive, I have to be more thoughtful with scheduling by say “no, thank you” in advance. Of course, if someone is in need I will be there for them in any way I can, as fast as I can… but other then that- less is more.
Seeing the look of disappointment on people’s faces hurts, but not nearly as much as pushing myself to the point of irritability, exhaustion and resentment. When appropriate I do my best to explain myself. People will have to understand and if they don’t it’s really not my responsibility to fix their attitude.